After going back and forth, over and over in my head and doing intense research on it, I have decided to go natural with my hair. I have been using relaxer for almost 15 years now and it has been a love/hate affair from the minute that the creamy white stuff drenched my hair and invaded my nostrils with that chemical smell. I have always had ridiculously thick hair and although its coarse-ish, its not super duper “nappy” by any means <–(according to my friends Sade, Tee and Vivi) but being that I was raised in a white neighborhood and attended primarily white schools my whole entire life, my kinky hair done up in braids and bows just wasnt cutting it for me as to what I thought pretty hair was. I wanted to wear it straight and not worry about it and I begged my mother for a relaxer. Eventually she gave up and I had long silky hair for years. As I grow older and my hair breaks, I realize Im over it. I still love long, silky straight hair but I also love big, coiled, pouffy hair as well. But besides the aesthetics of it, I really,truly just want healthy hair. I am the first to admit Im terrible doing my hair. I hate it. I dont have a good regimen but I do use great products. I harp on my boyfriend every day about his beauty regimen and sticking to it but I am a huge hypocrite because I dont religiously follow my own. The other day I was on Pinterest and a plethora of natural hair images deboe’d my newsfeed. I was in awe and just loved every single look. I immediately started G-Chatting with Elle and Sade about it and then proceeded to go on YouTube to drool over Chime Edwards hair. That was it! I decided to go natural. Im not doing this to get in touch with my African roots and I am not doing it to be more of a “sista”. Im very much a strong black woman regardless of what my hair looks like or the words I use and my tone when I speak. Im doing it because I like the look and versatility it will allow me and I am on this journey because I really want the super duper thick hair that I once had. I can honestly say that I will be very much like the girl from LongHairDontCare2011 YouTube channel and will probably straighten my hair more than most because I like that look but will certainly rock out with wild hair as well. This is going to be tough for me but I am ready and willing to learn as I go along. I know most, if not ALL of my friends are natural and they have been super supportive of this and have gotten lots of great feedback on twitter. Even my boyfriend said “Im not with you for your hair” when I asked his opinion. (insert group Awwwww)! It was really the last straw for me when I realized that I rarely if EVER use a blowdryer and use a flatiron maybe 1-2 times a month and my hair still felt as if it were thin, lifeless and brittle. I just cannot get with that! I will NOT be doing a “big chop” and will most likely use weaves while transitioning….. wish me luck!
I appreciate you all reading and am looking forward to the tips you all have to offer!!! Enjoy the images that helped in making this decision!!!
all images from my Pinterest page. Please visit for exact image details and ownership!
|Chime Edwards of Hair Crush YouTube Channel|
|natural hair blowdried and straightened|
|my hair about 4 months post relaxer about 4 years ago|
|true love…. him cutting out my weave|
|my first twist out.. Im only about 2 months post relaxer|
2 Women I Have Met in Real Life that also truly Inspire and Awe Me with Their Hair:
1. Tameeka of My Designer Dreams
2. Elise of Its Vintage Darling